I came out at 61 and it had been incredibly hard. I think l found it so confusing before realising l was on the Asexual spectrum. After reading about this and feeling it was definitely me l started to feel better about myself. My family but especially my husband have been amazing, it has been a very difficult year for him. I have felt suicidal and friends and family have been there for me. Counselling also helped. At this point l think l would describe myself as bi romantic possibly pan, Asexual.
hi I'm Scott and was born in 1969. I grew up in motherwell which was a very butch, Masonic, sectarian area dominated by steel works. in my early years men like John Inman and Larry grayson represented my community. they were non threatening and effeminate. I knew I was different but I couldn't associate myself with them. the aids crisis and clause 28 further made me feel excluded. my faith also reinforced I was against human nature and gods law. I lived a loveless life till I was 48 and flew to the Philippines where I held hands with my first gay partner. recently on TV I'm glad we have a wide diversity of LGBTQ family. Rugby players, sportsmen, actors and mps. at 50 I feel more included in society and TVs portrayal of our community has helped so much. no more self harming and self loathing for me.
Post by 50veryconfuciusman on Feb 11, 2020 11:59:49 GMT
I'm in a similar situation I guess but it feels way worse as I'm slightly older, 50 this year. I guess I've been a closeted gay man all my life, trying to do the marriage, daughter, etc. Ok the marriage didn't last but I've been in a straight relationship for past 10 years. Unbeknownst to me, I've had a giant aneurysm for 36 years, the result of a motorcycle accident, helmet less, that in 2016 decided it was time to burst. 4 days in a coma, a platinum coil where the bleed was, and then 4 years of trying to work out who I am now, the person I was before has gone, everything I had a lid on and control of, no more, I guess you could call it the Phil effect. I understand the suicidal thoughts, I have them daily, will I act on them? No way, couldn't do it to my daughter or grandchildren now. I was brought up Roman Catholic in the 70's, so my gay shame is off the charts plus I'm trying to recover from a brain haemorraghe that really should have killed me. I have seen the 3d scan of my head, I have no logical explanation for why I'm still here, but I am. And GAY, I had a breakdown in December 2018 and kind of came out then to my gf, daughter, close friend, but then I back tracked and bottled it, who even does that? I have to come out at some point, at the moment I'm living a lie to please everyone else. To be perfectly honest, I have no idea what I am, very confused. Glen
Hi All i am in my 50s. I have tried to be a part time player as such. On the straight side marriage and family. Of the course the marriage failed. The kids are fantastic! With the help of professional assistance i have come to accept i am gay. I am relieved to be coming out. Its a step process for me. I am happier as a person. But it is very difficult. If i had have come our earlier i would have avoided a lot mental illness issues. But but but i would not have my beautiful kids. Thats the hardest thing when i look back. I amazed how people treat so different because your sexual choices are different. Also i so respect the young gay people who come. I admire you. I respect you and hope you have a great life.
Scratch that. Came out to my daughter, sister, ex wife and best friend yesterday. Daughter was surprised but happy to have a bi dad as she's pan herself. Ex wife wasn't surprised at all. Best friend just said "so?" Lol. Sister was supportive.
Came out to my other friends today, before coming out to the world at large via FB. No negative responses yet and I haven't lost any FB friends yet. Yet lol.
As far as I'm concerned I'm out to the world now. I'm not exactly going to be walking down the street with a bi pride flag draped over me, but I'm not hiding anything from anyone anymore. What the saying? Out and proud!
Oh, and only one person asked me if the giver or receiver. I told her I don't know yet as I'm still a guy virgin 😂
Also, 3 of my female friends have said they're happy to give me tips on sucking d1ck cos I've never done it before. I'm sure I can work it out based on my own experiences, after all I do have my own and I know how to handle that one 😂. Gonna be fun learning..