I was just wondering if anyone started to understand and accept that they were bisexual when they were in their mid forties? And can you be bisexual if you are attracted tow women but never actually been intimate with one? It has taken me years to start to accept that i am attracted to woman, sexually. I used to think it was more of a crush on women who were like I wanted to be. Strong and independent. But i have realised otherwise. I am happily married. I have no intention of cheating on my husband. But, in coming out to myself, I feel a huge sense of relief and acceptance of who I am. Does this make any sense?
Thanks so much for your post. It sounds like you've come to a great realisation and I'm so glad that you feel relief in accepting who you are. I identify as gay so don't know exactly how you feel, but I think it's definitely possible to be bi even if you haven't acted on those feelings. Sexuality is about attraction, not action, and regardless of your sexual history, your feelings toward others are what make your sexual orientation.
As you're not asking for any direct assistance I'll refrain from giving you links to support services and so forth as it sounds like you're doing well However, please do feel free to post here whenever you want and let us know how you're getting on! I'm sure that your experience will chime with some of the other people here as well - we're a diverse group!
Hi it makes perfect sense to me because l have been through a very similar thing. Fell in love with a woman and am married , l have no intention of cheating on him . I still don’t completely understand but have come to the conclusion l am bi-romantic and possibly on the asexual spectrum. I had no idea about these things until the last 6 months or so . I am an older woman and grew up very ignorant of sexuality and gender, conforming to what was expected of me!