6 months ago I was in my first ever relationship and has proper sex for the first time too with this person, we're no longer together but lately I have a high sex drive and miss that physical intimacy with someone. Not anyone in particular but the problem, is that I'm not the type of person that feels comfortable being sexual with someone I don't know really well. And I definitely don't want to be in another relationship yet. I don't have any friends that I can or want to have a fling with or anything and masturbation doesn't seem to scratch that itch. At the moment I know there's nothing I can do anyway because of the pandemic but it's still a huge dilemma of mine. I've felt so desperate that I kind of want to try the stranger thing, not literally just talking with someone online with that end goal but I don't think I could go through with it, I'm very insecure of my body and what someone would think, it took a while for me to be intimate with my ex. What's your advice?
Congratulations on your first sexual relationship - sounds like that was an achievement considering your insecure feelings.
Your dilemma is indeed huge - I feel for you! I think so often when single we can't imagine being with anybody again and there can build up in our thoughts negative images and feelings about ourselves which are unwarranted. In terms of relationships, it certainly is a hard time for everyone in lockdown, and personally I just try and be philosophical about it.
However, you express having a high sex drive at the moment and imply it is a real problem to you. I am just wondering if you may benefit from talking with a specialist about it - if you can find one in lockdown, though. If I was suffering like that, I would have no hesitation talking with my psychologist about that but if you are not currently seeing one then your GP would direct you I am sure. They can refer you if you think that's how you want to proceed. In lockdown, many NHS services are available by phone.
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