Hey forum. I’m such a slept guy who’s absolutely tolerable to everybodys lifestyle. Idc So with that said I have a question that I’d like to ask without offending anyone. Well I’m not sure it is offensive that’s why I’m asking. I was talking to my female partner and I mentioned I wouldn’t mind having a older gay friend because they seem more grounded and the younger ones usually seem too sassy for me to relate to. Is this offensive? Is this common? Should I be woken up? I’m all willing to change anything remotely older thinking.
I personally take the view that no question is a silly question and as you make it clear your aim to not be offensive, then your question is quite acceptable in my view.
I wonder if it may be best to view it differently. Every person is different and some are more mature than others and age doesn't necessarily have much bearing on this. I think if you can find any gay man who is mature in their outlook then you will be able to relate to them on the level you want to. Does that make sense?
Possibly it is generally true that young people are not going to have the wisdom and experience of the older person. But in general, it is probably best not to generalise. lol. People often react to generalisations without understanding exactly what a generalisation is. An exception is not evidence that the generalisation is false but people can behave as though it is.
At the end of the day, you either get on with someone or you don't. If you want an older more mature less 'sassy' gay man as a friend, you will find them, they do exist. If you don't want a 'sassy' young gay man as a friend, then that is your prerogative. I don't see any offence in that. What may be offensive is if you label 'all' young gay men as sassy ungrounded and immature, then you are being prejudiced by definition.
These are entirely my personal opinions. Hope they help. I am an older gay man who finds immaturity and impulsivity difficult to tolerate no matter what the sexuality of the person or persons being referenced. Although they may be amusing to be around LOL.