I met my boyfriend in my slow transition of coming out at non-binary. We worked together,and the place wasn't so gay friendly and so i used she/her pronouns. Since dating my boyfriend i have decided to use they/them pronouns. He struggles a lot with using my proper pronouns, well at least when he is joking around and it has gotten better when i brought it up to him. I kinda wish i didn't have to bring this up to him at all and he took the initiative to learn about using my pronouns and how to support me! I also think tho i could be more communicative about it as i am still shy and struggling with being secure in my gender. I did bring up wanting top surgery and it was just an okay its your body.. where as my friends where so supportive and excited i think i need that positive reinforcement from him as well.
My friends are thinking i should break up with him and i do too sometimes. He is my best friend and the perfect boyfriend my cis self always wanted. and dreamed about lol. I guess i am just feeling either i need to put more of an effort to talk about this with him to see how he really feels about my gender but also think it should be on his own initiative.
That's a slightly complex situation you have there - I feel for you. For me a complete stranger, your boyfriend sounds very kind and that he loves you rather than your gender identity. I think that may be a plus. On the other hand, it must be frustrating he keeps forgetting the correct pronouns. I would say gently repeat the correction now and again and don't raise your voice - be very patient. It is important you show it is important to you, but not at the expense of hurting his feelings and making him feel bad about it.
Just wondering if you have talked with any specialist about your situation? Always a good idea to phone the Switchboard 0300 330 0630 where you can fully chat through your situation and get pointed to the right set of support systems. The resources are there, but you may have to be determined and persistent.
I am not sure of any specific helpline for someone transitioning to non-binary but maybe Mermaids could help or direct you. mermaidsuk.org.uk