Do people only come here with problems? I have a problem. I'm 52, non-binary, asexual and have a transgender past. I live in deepest, rural Devon (not quite the only gay in the village) and I hesitate to say not out, because I just don't address who I am with others. My problem concerns my ability to make friends.
I am a full-time carer, and have zero social life. Been like this now for over ten years. I'm also pretty cynical and suspicious. People think I'm female, which I am not altogether happy about, but hey ho there you go. I would like to be able to talk to others without having to deal with all the heteronormative baggage, but out here it's impossble. So, I was hoping that this forum might be somewhere to come and hang out? I'm quite happy with my own company, luckily, but sometimes I need to talk to someone other than my sister (who I care for and isn't really the talky/listeny type) or my dog.
I've considered Switchboard etc., but have never thought it applicable even though I have mental health issues, and groups (as on Meetup, real life etc.) scare the begoonies out of me. I just want somewhere to go, like in Cheers, but online, that I can talk about stuff. Is this the place?
Welcome to the Forums. Thank you for writing about yourself. You know, it is always helpful to write things down and people do read and can often relate, which makes us all feel less alone. I think there is a lot of loneliness around and it's good to reach out in whatever medium you find suits you.
You mention thinking the Switchboard is not applicable to you. Please do ring if you want to talk about absolutely anything that is on your mind even if it is just a chat with a friendly person who will understand where you are coming from. Just wanting a chat is all the excuse you need, you do not have to be desperate or in a bad state at all! Just be upfront about that so the person on the other end knows. You don't have to disclose anything you don't want to. It is all anonymous and confidential. I have used the service myself since it started in 1974 and have always been uplifted and encouraged.
I am a cisgender gay man but also have an autistic spectrum condition - one they used to call Aspergers. As such I can relate to being very largely happy being alone most of the time but like you I also crave a level of social interaction. Also like you, groups and meet-ups scare the begonias out of me!
So what I am saying is, you are not alone and if you want to interact on here, then that would be lovely. A lot of us are very busy with various things so the response time to posts can be a bit long. So if you are patient, then it would work for you.
Simon is absolutely right, and also, you can talk about whatever you want on these forums! We have specific boards for people to chat about life, the universe and everything. It doesn't just have to be a problem to start up a conversation. You're always welcome ^^.