I have been on POF and Her I have tried meet up No one likes me. I am socially quite shy so i don’t say much so i may come across as awkward I don’t have any friends and everywhere is shut anyway, so fee isolated and not able to meet any women Even on POf i keep getting rejected by the women i do like and approached by women i am not keen on who ask for live shows two mins after meeting or don’t seem genuine (one asked me for my number after 20 mins and started to get angry when i refused) I have been single for ages and i feel i will be alone forever where are the nice lesbians and how can i get any to actually like me ? where does one meet suitable women?
Thank you for your message and welcome to the OutLife forums.
I am sorry to hear of your situation. Isolation is a really big issue at the moment for everyone isn't it!
It sounds like you are doing the right sort of things in putting yourself out there and sifting through possible connections that come up on the dating site. It can get very tiring and upsetting when you find yourself single for so long. I think staying positive about it and keeping on searching is all you really can do.
Very often, people find partners where they aren't looking for them. I mean, joining hobby groups and other communities that are LBGTQ+ friendly where the emphasis is on shared activities rather than finding someone to date. Drama groups, garden or orchid societies, sports, whatever you are interested in or not but are just curious to do something different, all such things are possibilities. Hope is on the horizon with Covid vaccines looking promising and if we can all be a bit more patient, from next spring onwards, it should all be easier to get out and about.
If you fancy a chat on the phone about how you feel, I would definitely recommend you ring the Switchboard 0300 330 0630 anytime between 10am and 10pm.
They may be able to suggest other dating sites that would be better suited to you. I personally don't have any experience with them and would not feel confident to suggest any.
Hey Ria, don't feel down, I think it's just a weird time for everyone at the moment. I feel rather lost too - I have never been a lesbian before (lol) and I have just joined a site, but I wont add my pic, not because I am especially ugly - just because I'm not willing to put my face "out there" just yet. I'm sure the right person will come along soon xxx
Hi RIA. I can definitely relate to you. And I also joined this forum to know that I am not alone. I have been on Hinge for a while and have met a few people. Perhaps give that a try. This current situation sucks and I too am feeling like I'll never meet someone. But remaining positive. If you wanted someone to talk to, I'm happy to talk 🙂
Post by kellylouise92 on Feb 23, 2021 19:05:57 GMT
Preaching to the choir! Have been on every dating app/site going but I live in an area where there really isn’t a massive community so I just see the same 10 or so people on all of them. I’m not totally against long distance but I’ve been down that road before and it was hard (and the break up was harder but that’s a story for another day!) so I’m not sure I could go there again. So totally lost and fed up of being alone.