Over the past year Ive been struggling with my sexuality, I've identified as gay from 26 I am now 36. I'm starting to wonder if I'm treating penis as a fetish. This all started when I got a tap on grindr from a transman who had in his profile FYI I don't have a penis, I didn't reply to this person that made me think am I transphobic, then when I was thinking about it vagina in general regardless if its on a man or a women I've got an extremely aversion to them, like they generally me me feel uncomfortable. But I'm also not entirely comfortable around anus either, I don't find them attractive, the quickest way to stop a conversation on grindr if someone sends me a hole picture. I guess I'm pretty vanilla Im that sentence. I don't mind bottoming put it I'm honest i feel more like a side Frot oral or mutual MB. When it comes to guys I'm automatic attracted to is feminine guys but I would also to be attracted to transgender women who aren't getting bottom surgery aswell as people who are no binary who have penis. Now when I came out I used to think I was attracted to the person not the gender but now I'm thinking penis is apart of that. So I'm confused does this me pansexual, does this means I'm transphobic and problematic. Like I can remember having a 3some with a guy and his girlfriend and I had no issues kissing her but stayed clear of the vagina. I really don't want to offend anyone . Political I'm progressive and believe everyone so be treated equally.