Hi everyone, I'm new here so I hope I posted this in the right section
As mentioned in the title I'm in a very happy and healthy lesbian relationship, for a bit more than a year. I consider myself bisexual but I'm mostly attracted to women. I never had sex with men. Recently I started having sex dreams with guys, especially one friend of mine (which I am not necessarily attracted to - he's more like a brother to me). I've had 4 or 5 sex dreams with him and when I wake up I feel super horny.
I never really cared about having sex with men or not since I'm attracted to women 99% of the time. But these dreams are bothering me and I'm wondering if they mean anything... My girlfriend is gay and doesn't want a threesome or anything with a guy, so that's not an option if anyone wanted to suggest that haha.
I'm wondering if that's my sub-conscious telling me that I want to try something with men, or if it's just some random dreams...
If you consider yourself to be bisexual, then there is clearly some desire for men there. So it's not surprising that this comes out in your dreams. But they are just dreams, you don't have to act on them. Having sexy dreams about someone you know is quite common, but it doesn't mean anything. It's not your subconscious telling you that this guy is the one for you; it's just your mind wandering in different ways. Just enjoy the dreams and have a little giggle to yourself next time you see him.
I identify as gay and honestly, I have sex dreams about women occasionally as well! I'm no expert but I don't think they're your sub-conscious giving you a super direct message about your sexuality. Exactly why we dream about certain things is relatively poorly understood and I wouldn't worry too much about it. If you're in a happy relationship then that's the important thing, and unless the dreams are causing you distress, or interfering with your mental health, I'd just try to accept that they happen and keep doing what makes you happy.