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Post by debbiedowner99 on Mar 18, 2019 16:14:19 GMT
Great! I had a nice weekend. Imaan have put me in contact with a counsellor who is muslim and a lesbian. We've had a quick chat on the phone but she has already helped me so much. We're going to arrange regular sessions. Thanks again for pushing me in the right direction. I know I've a long way to go but I feel so much better.
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Post by eric1990 on Mar 25, 2019 1:45:30 GMT
Hi Debbie. I just read this conversation. I filled my heart with joy. I'm happy that you are heading in the right direction. x
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Post by debbiedowner99 on Mar 27, 2019 15:37:19 GMT
Thank you! I have my first skype session planned for next Monday. I'l let you know how it goes.
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Post by debbiedowner99 on Apr 8, 2019 19:16:48 GMT
Hi all.
I just thought you'd like an update.
I've now had two skype sessions so far and although it's been slow they have helped me so much. We talk about lots of random stuff but it all comes together to help me think about what I want from life.
Thank you for pointing me in the right direction. It's been a life saver.
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Post by justinmj on Apr 9, 2019 10:14:42 GMT
Debbie this is amazing! Thank you so much for letting us know how you're getting on. It's so fabulous to know that you're getting some support and that it's making a difference  |
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Post by Rasher on Apr 14, 2019 22:23:52 GMT
Wonderful news, Debbie! Make sure to keep us updated on your progress. We're sure it will help others who read your journey.
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Post by michs on Apr 14, 2019 23:16:11 GMT
Hi Debbie. I'm new here and have just read through your thread. Your journey is very inspiring and I wish you all the happiness in the world.
Michelle.
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Post by debbiedowner99 on May 9, 2019 18:48:15 GMT
Hi all.
It's been a month since my last update and I just thought you'd like to know what's happened.
So I've been having regular skype meetings with a great counsellor and a couple of face to face. She has helped me figure out quite a bit and I'm in a really great position so much so that I finally came out to some friends who didn't know. They were a bit shocked but been very supportive. They have told me that if my family do not accept me that they will support me. I'm happy about this. I am no where near telling my family but it's great to be in a place where I can finally be myself with my friends. On another note I have had a couple of dates! Yes... I know! Dates. They didn't work out but it's a big step for me.
Again I just want to say thank you for being there for me and pointing me in the right direction. I feel so much better about myself. I hope anyone reading my journey can feel inspired to do the same.
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Post by lynn84 on May 9, 2019 20:30:16 GMT
Debbie, your story is inspiring! You go, girl! xx
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Post by justinmj on May 9, 2019 21:58:13 GMT
@debbie I can't express how happy I am that things are coming together for you. Nothing ever happens all at once but these are such amazingly positive steps. I remember coming out to my friends was a huge relief as well because it was part of my everyday life where I didn't have to pretend any more. Great news that they're supportive. And remember, in addition to them there are organisations out there that can help you in the event that your family aren't understanding.
You're a true inspiration. If you need anything more, don't hesitate to ask. And please, keep the updates rolling!
J
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Post by debbiedowner99 on Sept 16, 2019 1:26:55 GMT
Hi all.
It's been a minute since I've updated you and a lot has changed.
I'm out! And proud. My family knows, my friends know, my work people know. And it's fine. It's so fine. All the fear and doubts I put on myself were for nothing. And guess what? I HAVE A GIRLFRIEND!!! It's early days but it's amazing.
I can't thank you enough, OutLife and you Justin for helping me along the way. This service you provide is special. I hope many more can find this and that you can continue to support others aswell.
Thank you.
Debbie... not a Downer anymore.
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Post by justinmj on Sept 17, 2019 10:12:06 GMT
This is incredible news Debbie! It's our absolute pleasure to be here to support people when they need it. Life can change for the better so very quickly, and I'm overjoyed that you find yourself in a happier spot If you ever need support you know exactly where we are. You're such a great contributor to this community and a help to other people. Thank you! |
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Post by kirhymeswithpie on Oct 14, 2019 15:39:55 GMT
It's been incredible to follow you on your journey Debbie. Thank you for sharing. I am so happy for you!
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Post by mikeh on Nov 23, 2019 13:33:33 GMT
Debbie. It was inspiring to read your story. Thank you for sharing.
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Post by debbiedowner99 on Mar 6, 2020 15:21:44 GMT
Wow, I just looked back at this whole thread. I can't believe it's been a year already!
UPDATE COMING!!
Life has turned 180 since I first came to these forums. I was down and out. I thought I was doomed and then I came here. I poured out my life and you listened. You gave me advice and pointed me in the right direction. If it wasn't for that guidance I don't think I would be alive today. And what does today look like? Well, I'm still in a relationship, I'm in love! My family know everything, they have met Kate and they love her. We have adopted a pet....... spider (bet you thought i was going to say cat) and called it Outtie after OutLife helped me so much. Life is pretty great.
Thank you for being there OutLife and to you Justin and to everyone who invested so much thought and effort into me. You really did save my life.
Happy Debbie.
PS, I do plan on getting more involved in these forums. I need to give back!
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