Post by debbiedowner99 on Mar 18, 2019 16:14:19 GMT
Great! I had a nice weekend. Imaan have put me in contact with a counsellor who is muslim and a lesbian. We've had a quick chat on the phone but she has already helped me so much. We're going to arrange regular sessions. Thanks again for pushing me in the right direction. I know I've a long way to go but I feel so much better.
Post by debbiedowner99 on Apr 8, 2019 19:16:48 GMT
I just thought you'd like an update.
I've now had two skype sessions so far and although it's been slow they have helped me so much. We talk about lots of random stuff but it all comes together to help me think about what I want from life.
Thank you for pointing me in the right direction. It's been a life saver.
Post by debbiedowner99 on May 9, 2019 18:48:15 GMT
It's been a month since my last update and I just thought you'd like to know what's happened.
So I've been having regular skype meetings with a great counsellor and a couple of face to face. She has helped me figure out quite a bit and I'm in a really great position so much so that I finally came out to some friends who didn't know. They were a bit shocked but been very supportive. They have told me that if my family do not accept me that they will support me. I'm happy about this. I am no where near telling my family but it's great to be in a place where I can finally be myself with my friends. On another note I have had a couple of dates! Yes... I know! Dates. They didn't work out but it's a big step for me.
Again I just want to say thank you for being there for me and pointing me in the right direction. I feel so much better about myself. I hope anyone reading my journey can feel inspired to do the same.
@debbie I can't express how happy I am that things are coming together for you. Nothing ever happens all at once but these are such amazingly positive steps. I remember coming out to my friends was a huge relief as well because it was part of my everyday life where I didn't have to pretend any more. Great news that they're supportive. And remember, in addition to them there are organisations out there that can help you in the event that your family aren't understanding.
You're a true inspiration. If you need anything more, don't hesitate to ask. And please, keep the updates rolling!
Post by debbiedowner99 on Sept 16, 2019 1:26:55 GMT
It's been a minute since I've updated you and a lot has changed.
I'm out! And proud. My family knows, my friends know, my work people know. And it's fine. It's so fine. All the fear and doubts I put on myself were for nothing. And guess what? I HAVE A GIRLFRIEND!!! It's early days but it's amazing.
I can't thank you enough, OutLife and you Justin for helping me along the way. This service you provide is special. I hope many more can find this and that you can continue to support others aswell.
This is incredible news Debbie! It's our absolute pleasure to be here to support people when they need it. Life can change for the better so very quickly, and I'm overjoyed that you find yourself in a happier spot
If you ever need support you know exactly where we are. You're such a great contributor to this community and a help to other people. Thank you!
Post by debbiedowner99 on Mar 6, 2020 15:21:44 GMT
Wow, I just looked back at this whole thread. I can't believe it's been a year already!
Life has turned 180 since I first came to these forums. I was down and out. I thought I was doomed and then I came here. I poured out my life and you listened. You gave me advice and pointed me in the right direction. If it wasn't for that guidance I don't think I would be alive today. And what does today look like? Well, I'm still in a relationship, I'm in love! My family know everything, they have met Kate and they love her. We have adopted a pet....... spider (bet you thought i was going to say cat) and called it Outtie after OutLife helped me so much. Life is pretty great.
Thank you for being there OutLife and to you Justin and to everyone who invested so much thought and effort into me. You really did save my life.
PS, I do plan on getting more involved in these forums. I need to give back!