Hey everyone, I’m wondering if anyone has ever had any experiences, positive or negative with lgbt (or other) support groups?
I’m in a really distressing situation right now that I need to talk through someone with badly. But it’s kinda complex and for several reasons I can’t talk to my close friends about it. Even though I’ve had bad experiences with therapy/counselors before I felt it was my only option in this situation but it’s going to be three more weeks before I can have a first session. I’m hopeful about it but there’s no guarantee that I’ll get along with the counselor and it will likely take several sessions for me to get used to them and work through my issues.
I need support a lot quicker but something more substantial than a helpline like switchboard or samaritans. It seems like my best option right now is a local support group for gay women like me.
To be honest it terrifies me the idea of attending one of these things, I’m not familiar with the format at all and the idea of being open about my most personal secrets and feelings in front of many strangers and potentially breaking down completely is not the most attractive to me right now. But I don’t have many options and the situation worsens tenfold every day.
Thanks for your post. It's great that you're already taking steps to find support, and it sounds like you've got a good understanding of what your needs are right now. I've experienced similar situations where my needs have been urgent but I've been on long waiting lists - it can be incredibly distressing. At the time I had little option but to rely on my friends but I totally understand why there are lots of situations where this isn't appropriate.
Support groups can be a really great way of getting help, though I get why the idea might make you nervous. I think your best bet is to contact whatever group you had in mind and inquire about the format, and how it works. That way you can enter the situation with your eyes wide open, knowing what the meeting will bring. You could even ask if it's possible to talk to one or two people rather than the whole group, if this makes you feel more comfortable.
I do have another suggestion that doesn't involve group work. Two LGBT charities - London Friend and ELOP are offering online counselling for free at the moment. My instinct says this could, at the bare minimum, plug the gap between now and you starting with a local counsellor / therapist. I don't think they have long waiting lists either, if any at all.
Post by debbiedowner99 on Jul 29, 2019 2:27:07 GMT
I have to say I love peer-support. So when I came here I was lost and didn't know what to do. Since then I have entered one to one counselling. The counsellor suggested I look into the local muslim LGBTQ+ peer-support group. It changed my life. To be in a situation where I can be in the same room with people who have/are going through similar problems helped. I highly recommend it. Go for it, Caroline.